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BFLRC does not have a web store. Linda Smith continues to devote her life to "Supporting the Peopel Who Support Breastfeeding" as a lecturer, author, policy consultant and advocate. You may wish to visit our Resources pages for sources of information and materials such as those that led you to this page. From time to time Linda Smith will publish a book or media review on this site. Mothering Your Nursing Toddler, Revised Editionby Norma Jane Bumgarner
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Many a modern mother has felt as though she has embarked on uncharted waters as she continues to breastfeed a child into toddlerhood. The child's need to nurse is clear-but mother has lots of questions. In Mothering Your Nursing Toddler, author Norma Jane Bumgarner puts the experience of nursing an older baby or child in perspective, within the context of the entire mother-child relationship. She cites biological, cultural, and historical evidence in support of extended breastfeeding and shares stories gleaned from thousands of families in which nursing and natural weaning have been the norm. With warm insight into the needs of both mothers and children, this book covers what parents need to know about nursing toddlers.
How breastfeeding is different at age one, age two, age three
What to do when toddlers wake at night to nurse
How to recognize whether a child is ready to wean
Deciding if, when, and how to set limits on breastfeeding
Responding to criticism from friends and family
Reassurance that nursing into toddlerhood will not produce a spoiled, troubled child or one who is "too dependent" on his mother
Information on breastfeeding during pregnancy-deciding whether to wean or continue nursing
How children who continue to find comfort at mother's breast through the toddler years learn to be self-confident, independent, and sensitive to others.
Mothers who breastfeed their children past infancy recognize that breastfeeding is more than nutrition. It's a way of mothering. As little ones learn to walk, talk, and run-while continuing to nurse-mothers can rely on the wisdom in this book.
Foreword by Martha Sears
1980 foreword by Mary K. White
Introduction xvii
An Investment, Not a Sacrifice xvii
Breastfeeding is One of the Basics xxii
Managing Children's Lives xxiv
The Real Goal of Parenting-Self-Sufficiency xxv
Part one Nursing Your Toddler ? Why?
Chapter 1 Why Children Nurse into Toddlerhood 3
Sucking, a Tool for Growing 3
Chapter 2 Why Mothers Nurse Their Children into Toddlerhood 7
Seeing a Need 7
A Health Plus 7
Closeness 14
Comfort 17
When There Are Older Siblings 18
Other Advantages 19
When Experience Speaks 20
Chapter 3 Nursing Still the Best for Your Child 23
Early Weaning Not Recommended for Children 23
Nursing and Weight Gain 32
Nutrition and the Nursing Toddler 39
Night Nursing A Factor in Tooth Decay? 41
Chapter 4 Nursing-Still the Best for Yourself 49
Mother's Nutritional Needs 49
Prolonging Lactational Amenorrhea 52
Other Physical Effects of Nursing 56
Dealing with Your Own Doubts 57
Coping with Family Pressure 59
Coping with Pressure from Outsiders 62
Fun and Games 71
Chapter 5 Glimpses into Other Times and Cultures 75
History 75
Using What We Learn from Other Cultures 90
Part Two: Nursing Your Toddler-How?
Chapter 6 When Nursing Presents Challenges 97
Nursing and Automobile Safety 97
Breast Problems 99
Sensual/Sexual Aspects of Breastfeeding 107
Social Service Agencies and the Courts 110
Biting 111
Illness in the Nursing Mother 115
Multiples 117
Chapter 7 Pregnancy and Tandem Nursing 121
Nursing Two 132
Chapter 8 Getting Enough Rest 151
Night Duty 151
When Needs Clash 153
Frequent Night Waking 156
Chapter 9 Marriage and Life with a Nursing Toddler 167
Changes in Sexual Interest 167
Re-Staging the Lovemaking 172
Chapter 10 Unique Circumstances 175
Employment Away from Home 175
Your Adopted Child 188
Your Last Child 190
Chapter 11 Fathering and the Nursing Toddler 193
A Father's Influence 193
The Importance of Fathering 196
Coping with a Mommy's Baby 197
Fathering Your Nursing Toddler 199
Husbanding Your Nursing Wife 203
Part Three Nursing Your Toddler Year by Year
Chapter 12 Nursing in the Second Year 209
The Nursing Toddler-A Baby on Wheels 209
Toddler Nursing Strike 211
Nursing Leaves One Hand Free 212
Getting Through the Peak Time for Criticism 216
Chapter 13 Nursing Through the Terrible Twos 219
"Terrible Twos"-No Longer Terrible 219
Talking About Nursing 222
Frequent Nursing in a Two-Year-Old 225
Getting Sick of Nursing 230
Chapter 14 Nursing a Three-Year-Old 233
Babyhood's Last Shadow 233
Talking about Nursing and about Weaning 235
Chapter 15 Nursing Past Four 239
The Specter of Nursing Forever 239
Becoming Part of a Memory 242
Peer Pressure 243
Part Four Weaning
Chapter 16 "Natural" Weaning 249
The Child under Three 249
After Three 252
Resuming Nursing after Weaning 253
Spontaneous Weaning in Children over Four 256
Chapter 17 Time-Honored (or Time-Worn?)
Approaches to Weaning 259
Initiating Weaning 259
The "Mother's Week Out" Approach, or Weaning
by Abandonment 260
The "Spicy Burrito" Method 263
The Return of Frankenstein's Monster 264
Crying It Out 265
Chapter 18 Some Less Dramatic Weaning Techniques 267
Serious Business 267
"Don't Offer, Don't Refuse" 268
Distraction 269
Substitution 270
Postponement 272
Shortening the Nursings 273
Weaning by Contract 273
Father and Weaning 275
Spot Weaning 276
Weaning by Capitulation 277
Chapter 19 Making the Best of Nursing or Weaning 279
Deciding to Wean 279
Weaning in an Emergency 285
Living Short of the Ideal 286
Effects of Weaning on Mother 287
bibliography 291
resources 297
index 301
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